Even now, in your 20s and 30s, the girl talk you usually end up having is centered around the discussion of the men in your lives. Some really great results can come from talking about your relationship with your girlfriends, such as the reassurance that, yes, that girl is horrible and your guy should not have ever been talking to her. However, let’s be honest, there are many dangers to conversing about the details of your relationship too often with your girlfriends. The world gets a little bit easier when your friends think your significant other is just as great as you do. You can all hang out together and you get the best of both worlds! It’s pretty much perfect. But sometimes, no matter how awesome you think your man is, your friends just don’t all agree. It’s not ideal, but it’s bound to happen — friends can’t always agree on everything and sometimes the things they don’t agree on happen to be pretty important. Here are a few reasons pointed out by Elite Daily.
Your girlfriends are only getting one side of the story
Rarely do you get together and tell each other all of the amazing things your significant others do for us. Instead, you tend to focus on the negatives and tell each other about the fights, the bad moments. It is nice to have someone to whom you can vent, but if this is the only information your girls are hearing, they are likely to form some pretty negative opinions about your love.
Later on, it will inadvertently become more difficult for them to support your man when they have this file cabinet in their minds full of all the complaints you have ever made about him.
Your girlfriends always think you are right
There are a few women you have in your life who point out when you’re being completely psychotic, but most of the time, they side with you. The thing is you’re am not always right. Sometimes you genuinely mess up, as all human beings do, and you need to be held accountable for it.
Women tend to be more sensitive to criticism — even if constructive — when it comes from their friends. When you spend time talking with one another, assuring yourselves that you are most definitely right, you can create issues in the romantic relationship if, in fact, we were wrong.
Your girlfriends stop trusting your significant other
We already established that your girlfriends are only getting one side of the story — a story in which you likely come across as pretty angelic contrasted to your devil of a man. It is a pretty well-known fact that women do not ever forget. The more you talk to your girls about your man, the more wrongs they will file away about him and the less they will trust him.
You can avoid a lot of unnecessary drama if you refrain from discussing the problems in your romantic relationship so much with your girlfriends. If you are going to talk about your issues with friends — because, let’s be real, everyone does it — try to balance it out by boasting about all the positives, too.
This might just help your relationship with your man and his relationship with your girls.
Compiled by Saman Javed.
Published in The Express Tribune, April 19th, 2014.
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